{"id":21214,"date":"2018-01-27T07:59:21","date_gmt":"2018-01-27T14:59:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lastbestnews.com\/site\/?p=21214"},"modified":"2018-01-27T07:59:21","modified_gmt":"2018-01-27T14:59:21","slug":"opinion-heres-how-you-can-help-stop-domestic-violence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/montana-mint.com\/lastbestnews\/2018\/01\/opinion-heres-how-you-can-help-stop-domestic-violence\/","title":{"rendered":"Opinion: Here’s how you can help stop domestic violence"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"Beth<\/a>

Beth Hoover<\/p><\/div>\n

Montana is pretty cool. Montana is a state that values independence, hard work and rugged individualism. And there are a lot of things we get right. But, we need to not shut our eyes to the things we get wrong.<\/p>\n

Earlier this month in Belgrade, Joseph DeWise was charged with the deliberate homicide shooting of his wife, Lauren Walder DeWise. He\u2019s also been charged with shooting and critically injuring her roommate, Ashley Van Hemert. DeWise allegedly broke into Lauren and Ashley\u2019s apartment after Lauren had left him because of his abuse. Joseph DeWise and Lauren were separated.<\/p>\n

DeWise exemplifies how domestic violence abusers become desperate to regain power and control once their innocent partner leaves. Far too often, abusers will also hurt or kill bystanders who might try to intervene \u2014 including friends, family and law enforcement officers.<\/p>\n

Domestic violence incidents like this happen far too frequently.<\/p>\n

So, what do I want you to do about it? I want Montanans to get involved.<\/p>\n

I want you to decide that we will not tolerate dating partners, marriage partners, other family members, acquaintances, friends, or anyone else who chooses to abuse someone. I want Montanans to take a stand.<\/p>\n

You might be asking, \u201cBut what can I do?\u201d I have three ways you can make a difference in our state starting today:<\/p>\n

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  1. Donate to your local domestic and\/or sexual violence advocate organization.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Montana doesn\u2019t give state funds to domestic and\/or sexual violence advocate organizations. That means that these organizations are dependent on federal funds and local donations.<\/p>\n

    Federal funds aren\u2019t ideal, especially since advocate organizations aren\u2019t government organizations \u2014 they\u2019re generally nonprofits. They have to apply for the federal funding through grants. There\u2019s lots of competition, and the amount isn\u2019t always stable.<\/p>\n

    \"CapreAir_Variable\"<\/a><\/div><\/div>Donations can make a huge difference. Advocate organizations can\u2019t keep providing critical services without your help.<\/p>\n

    You don\u2019t have to give a large amount \u2014 even $25 can buy a survivor gas to escape a bad situation. Plus, whatever amount you give provides encouragement to the advocates. These advocates fight every day to help women, children, and men affected by domestic and sexual violence. Your gift makes a difference.<\/p>\n

    To find your local organization, visit the Montana Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence website<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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    1. Prevent future violence by making sure Montana youth have the skills they need for healthy relationships.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Talk with your school administrators and your local school board. If your school doesn\u2019t have a healthy-relationship program in place, encourage them to get one.<\/p>\n

      There are a lot of programs out there that teach children how to treat each other well in all relationships \u2014 from friendships to acquaintances to dating relationships. If you\u2019re looking for a Montana-made option, check out the program I work for, Power Up, Speak Out! at www.powerupspeakout.org<\/a>.<\/p>\n

      But, honestly, we\u2019re an organization that wants to see a Montana without violence. It doesn\u2019t matter if you use our program or a different program. Find what\u2019s going to work for your community, and get active in getting it into the schools.<\/p>\n

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      1. Volunteer for your local domestic and\/or sexual violence advocate organization.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Nearly all of these organizations run a 24-7 helpline. These helplines wouldn\u2019t be possible without community volunteers. Each organization runs its helpline a little differently, but all of them will provide you with training and oversight. And they\u2019ll be ecstatic that you want to help out!<\/p>\n

        Even if you can\u2019t help by taking shifts on a crisis line, there are usually other ways to help. Maybe you can serve on the board. Just contact them and ask.<\/p>\n

        To find your local organization, visit the Montana Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence website<\/a>.<\/p>\n

        You can always speak up, too. If you notice bruises, or someone who appears to be emotionally demoralized or manipulated by their partner, you can intervene. Let that person know that they don\u2019t deserve to be hurt or to be treated poorly. Encourage them to speak to an advocate organization that can provide assistance.<\/p>\n

        We can do this, Montana. Let\u2019s use that hard-working Montana spirit to make a positive change in our state.<\/p>\n

        Beth Hoover is the violence prevention educator and communications manager at Domestic and Sexual Violence Services in Red Lodge.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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